Has anyone ever told you that you are “positively glowing”?
Maybe we think of this as only happening to pregnant people — you know, that whole “pregnancy glow” thing is pretty popular — but think about when you’ve returned to work after a particularly restful vacation.
The kind of vacation with lots of sun, sand and a complete lack of obligation to be anywhere or do anything.
You come back feeling fan-flipping-tastic without a care in the world and maybe have a bit of a sun-kissed glow.
If you live in the frozen tundra and unexpected weather machine that is Alberta, Canada like me, any amount of time in the sun is likely to elicit the “glow” comment. Really, it’s a hot topic around here!
Good vacations and pregnancy aren’t the only ways to get a great glow.
What about when you are so fulfilled, happy and self-assured that you can’t help but radiate confidence and positivity from your very core. Do you feel like you are glowing in those moments?
Do other people tell you that you’re glowing?
Take a minute to reflect — when was the last time you felt like this? When was the last time you told someone else they were “positively glowing”?
When I think about it, every time I’ve either said someone has a “glow” or I have been told I am “glowing”, it is always when life is going really well. When I’m glowing it’s because I’m feeling really balanced, mentally strong and happy with myself and my life — the puzzle pieces all fit together.
What about when things aren’t going well?
Because life is life, and not tacos, it’s not always going to be sunshine and roses. Things are going to get tough, you’re going to have bad days and you’re going to struggle. It’s normal!
When that happens you don’t have to be sunshine and roses either — feel the emotions and allow yourself to sit with them. Trust me, if you don’t they’re just going to pop up later anyways. Or explode all over the place.
That’s a fun time — ever been there? I sure have.
But once you’ve given yourself a chance to deal with your feelings, whether that means being a negative nelly eating ice-cream in the bathtub, seeking counsel from a trusted friend or therapist, or anything else in between, it’s time to start rebuilding your glow.
How to start positively glowing, inside and out.
So great, you know you get that “glow” when you’re happy and feeling good about life, but how in the heck do you achieve that when you’re feeling really unhappy and crappy about life?
Start by figuring out some general themes that resonate with you — and no, I don’t mean like superhero and pony party themes. What I’m talking about are the core areas of focus in your life that bring you joy and fulfillment.
My “themes” are self-care, wellness, beauty and inspiration. So for example if I’m focused on building myself up and getting my glow back, I might plan an appointment at the sauna (self-care), practice yoga at home (wellness), give myself a fresh manicure (beauty) and listen to a motivational audiobook (inspiration).
When you can identify your personal “themes” you will have an easier time building a plan to keep yourself in a good place, or to recover when crap inevitably hits the fan — ’cause it will.
If I have a know I’m going to have a stressful week at work, I’ll book myself an extra float appointment, make sure I have my vitamin water stocked in the fridge and plan for a gel manicure, so that my nails last extra long in case I don’t have time for my weekly change-up.
These are small things individually, but added together they make a real and noticeable impact on my mental health and stress levels during the week.
Plus, if it’s something you enjoy, the time and effort is always worth it because you are worth it!
Need some help getting started?
This week I’m launching the Positively Glowing community group over on Facebook — I know, it’s hard to believe even as I’m writing this, that I am in fact finally doing it.
There is a group, it exists, and by the time you’re reading this you’ll be able to click here to join!
Over in the Positively Glowing community, I’ll be sharing a modified version of my “How to Positively Glow” infographic that you can fill in and use as a template to help you get started.
I’m looking forward to talking about this in the community, but I want to know:
What are some of the core “themes” in your life that make you positively glow?